See Things For What They Really Are:
Take what you get, things won’t always meet your expectations. Events occur the way they do. People behave the way they do. Become aware of this and you save yourself from fake attachments and avoidable sadness. Think about those closest to you. They are mortals, so they shall pass. Now think about your favorite cup, if it were to break you could cope. So, if death is to arise you should be able to bear it in the same manner. It takes practice and you have to practice coping with things building up from the cup. When “devastation” occurs, the only control we have is over our mentality. It’s not the events that stress us, but our interpretation of them. Things, events, and people are not how you desire them to be.
Desire Demands Its Own Attainment:
Most of the time, our desires are just habit so we must train ourselves to abandon these habits. When we have desires that are unattained, we become upset, and when we attain something we’ve tried to avoid, we become stressed. The Stoics teach to only avoid undesirable things that harm your mental, physical, and spiritual health that are within your control. If you avoid uncontrollable events like death, illness, or other similar misfortunes, you only suffer more than you need to. Be superior to your desires. If you desire something out of your control you only set yourself up for disappointment. That energy trying to get/avoid something out of your control can be put to much better use. Focus your desires only on what you can control and go about it with great prowess