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Daily Stoicism: Epictetus

Desire Demands Its Own Attainment:

Most of the time, our desires are just habit so we must train ourselves to abandon these habits. When we have desires that are unattained, we become upset, and when we attain something we’ve tried to avoid, we become stressed. The Stoics teach to only avoid undesirable things that harm your mental, physical, and spiritual health that are within your control. If you avoid uncontrollable events like death, illness, or other similar misfortunes, you only suffer more than you need to. Be superior to your desires. If you desire something out of your control you only set yourself up for disappointment. That energy trying to get/avoid something out of your control can be put to much better use. Focus your desires only on what you can control and go about it with great prowess

Daily Stoicism: Epictetus

Know What You Can Control and What You Can Not

You can achieve freedom and felicity once you realize this. The only things that you have direct control over are your thoughts, dreams, and opinion of events. Things that we cannot control are circumstances we are born into (such as Epictetus who was born into slavery), The anatomy you have, and your status among others. The common theme here is that you can control only what is internal, not external and controlled by the whims of others. Depression occurs when we obsess over externalities.