It is man’s greatest responsibility to sustain his family. Society suffers when men fail to do this. As of late, civilization has seemed to decay. In this post I will dive into one of the main reasons that we are seeing this, at least in the Western world. Starting with the destruction of the nuclear family during the Industrial Revolution.
Stage 1: Men Leave the Household
Because of the Industrial Revolution, men could no longer be profitable performing a trade at home in front of the kids. So men started to go away from their family to work In a factory. This had damaging effects on the children. This is because there seems to be a natural tendency in humans to suspect someone is doing something wrong when they never see them. When the kids didn’t know what their father was doing all day, they expect he is up to no good or purposefully chose work over them. This suspicion is amplified when the mother makes an innocent complaint under her breath that the children overhear. Another downfall of the father when he goes to work in a factory is that he spends his whole time doing one task. This specialization becomes more problematic.
Stage 2: Distancing Between the Father and Son
With the father’s specialization in the factory, he no longer has any trades to teach his son. Because of this, he has nothing to pass down to his son. This gets completely rid of one of the best bonding moments for the father and son. The son wishes to learn something from his father for this is the man he idols. Two things arise out of his father’s inability to teach him a trade. One, he feels disconnected from his father and two, he begins to question his father’s intelligence. This disconnection allows the son to never see the “good side” of his father, which brings us to the next stage.
Stage 3: The Son’s Infatuation with his Mother
As the son gets older and dislikes his father more and more, his mother begins to get more comfortable complaining about the father to him. The son provides a listening ear and is surprised at how badly his mother is affected by his father’s bad side. He vows to treat his mother with the utmost respect. He becomes figuratively shackled by his mother. He bears all the hatred of men from his mother. Hoping to avenge her, he decides to not be like his father in any aspects, even the good side. He disregards his masculinity for something else, empathy.
Stage 4: Men Gave a Mouse a Cookie
The children of the industrial family grow up to have a family of their own. The new father, who was an empathetic boy, maintains this characteristic. He is able to listen to his wife and so, major policy change occurs. Feminism gets a foothold in daily life. This does not affect familial matters at first, since it only achieves women’s suffrage. Feminist were quite moderate in this period. But as they say, “If you give a mouse a cookie.” More radical women entered the public sphere asking for much more, to abolish the nuclear family nearly all together. They believed total independence, even from family, equated to happiness. Partially due to men’s empathy, they passively allowed the independence of their spouses
Stage 5: Women Leave the Household
Second wave feminism implanted the idea that working meant being independent and many women took the bait. This leaves the kids with little to no contact at all with their parents. The children now become the responsibility of the state and enter school at an earlier age. This allows early indoctrination of the children by the public school system, which at this time had most likely already been infiltrated by communist propaganda.
Stage 6: The Rise of Mental Work
Similar to the Industrial Revolution, however this time the fathers cannot bond with their sons because children cannot comprehend the kind of work the father does. Mental work tends to have much longer hours as well so the kids would be in bed by the time the father got home. In some families, no interaction would ever occur between the father and the children.
Stage 7: Vietnam War
After the treacherous war, the few men that held on to their masculinity now abandoned it completely. If being a man meant fighting in something of that magnitude, they wanted no part of it. This caused an interesting shift in the masculine and feminine energies as men started to abandon their masculinity. Women started to harden even more so, some became very cold to the family or did not have one at all. At this point the boys had no masculine male role model and the girls had no feminine female role models. The children were confused and mostly misguided throughout their childhood. They did not know who to emulate.
Stage 8: Many Fathers Abandon the Family
With this new generation of effeminate men, many no longer had spines to set boundaries at the beginning of the relationship. This led to problems piling up on the man until, eventually, he reached his breaking point and split. He abandoned the family leaving the son no role model. As you can see from the stats below, this had serious repercussions.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes
- 80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes
- 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes
Stage 9: Media Comes into Play
The media discredits the father of the family by making all fathers appear incompetent. Shows like “The Simpsons,” “Family Guy,” and “American Dad” become increasingly popular with the youth. They subconsciously began to believe that their dad fits this modern archetype. The father then loses all grounds of being able to enforce the rules of the household since the children never take him seriously. This partially causes the delinquency we see today.
Stage 10: What the Future Holds
Even though the media is still pushing the narrative of men being incompetent, dangerous, and disloyal, I am sensing a shift of perception among the population. Men are beginning to pick up craftsmanship, reading, and fitness like I’ve never seen in my lif. This will be great for their children or when they decide to have children so that they can teach them. There is a rise in men who now have spines and stand their ground when they believe something is morally wrong. This is great for the communication in the relationship. Men are finally embracing their masculinity and women are embracing their femininity, as much as the feminist movement hates this. The rate of stay at home mothers is beginning to rise after declining for decades. Divorce rates in the U.S. drop to a nearly 40 year low.
Although our past and some current events have looked grim for the formation of the nuclear family, we are starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Man and Woman are beginning to go back to their natural ways. It will be refreshing to see what kind of children this generation brings up.